As I approach the final chapters of my life and look back at the earlier chapters, I realize the big flaw (do I dare call it sin) in my life has been my tendency to speak before I think.
Many times my motives have been good. I’m the kind of person who likes to fix things, make things better for others. So when someone comes to me to share a concern, a problem, a difficult situation, I am often quick to give advice on what they should do to take care of the problem. Quick to share my opinion on how they should handle things. Even quick to do something myself to make things better.
Good intentions – to help.
BUT – perhaps they do not need or want my advice. Perhaps they just need to have someone listen to them and maybe give them a hug.
Other times, I must confess, my motives have not been good. I have spoken quickly out of anger or hurt.
However, I do not think I am the only one with this flaw. Reading the Proverbs this week with my husband I could not help but notice how many times the writer tells us to watch our words.
Proverbs 17:28 – “Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent; with their mouths shut, they seem intelligent.”
Proverbs 18:13 – “Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.”
Proverbs 21:23 – “Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble.”
But the one I love the most is Proverbs 10:19 – “Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.”
Now if we could just get our politicians and news reporters to follow that advice.
More and more I find myself praying the words of Psalms 19:14 – “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer.”