I have been “death cleaning” but did not realize it!
Over the years I have watched my friends fret as they anticipated turning 30, 40, 50 or 60. I never understood why they got so up tight. To me those milestones were just another birthday.
But this spring I turn 70 and that is a milestone I find hard to accept.
70 – I can no longer count myself in the middle age group. I’m old!
Thinking about this milestone in my life I have found myself looking around at all my “stuff” accumulated over the years and suddenly it just seems like too much “stuff.” I have had an irresistible urge to clean house – to declutter.
While I certainly expect to live many more years I have looked around and thought:
Why am I hanging on to stuff I no longer need, want or use?
Why leave all this for my children to have to sort through deciding who gets what. Or, what is really more likely, to not want any of it but feel guilty putting it in a yard sale or toting off to Goodwill?
Since my kids are grown, why do I need so many pots and pans, so many dishes?
Since it is now just my husband and me, do I really need two televisions, four recliners?
Talking to my husband he agreed that it is time to clean house, to declutter. My daughter says I sound like a pregnant woman who is nesting just before her baby comes.
So we have started going through our home and making decisions.
We have listed several items on the local swap websites and have been able to sell several items.
Our garage is full of boxes all ready to be priced and sorted for our community yard sale this spring.
While I thought this was just my own unique experience I found out recently that there is a new book being published this month by Margareta Magnusson called The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning. Translated from the Swedish döstädning the concept is not a negative focus on death. It is just recognizing that maybe you should start shedding the baggage of life rather than leave it for your children to deal with.
Also – and this is where I am right now – having too much “stuff” can raise stress levels as you age and do not have the energy to keep it all looking neat and in order.
Besides, while I still have a lot of good years ahead, I realize there are more years behind me than ahead and I want to enjoy every minute of those remaining.
Instead of spending time and energy dusting, cleaning, I want to:
dance and enjoy fun times with my husband
enjoy some road trips
and spend some romantic evenings just enjoying being together and watching the sun set.
So – as I begin this death cleaning, I find I am already feeling much better – somehow freer to enjoy the years ahead.
So sorry kids! Besides spending all our money on those road trips, now you find out there won’t be much else left in the house when we bite the dust!